Dec 14, 2012

Hello, it's me, your Habit!

Habits are behaviors buried and sealed so deeply in our brain that we perform most of them without even realising it. I can become slave, or I can become master of my habits and actions. It's only me who is in control of my actions.

Good morning, it's me. Your habit - Says habit every morning when you wake up already for couple months for your new work or school. You don't even need alarm clock set to be awake on time. Your mind clock is already prepared to ring.

On the way to work or school - there's something in your mouth along the way - that you light up and blow smoke out of your lungs. It's again called, habit. How did it happen again? I want to quit!

Black coffee beans are smashed in machine to make fresh smelling and warm drink to wake you up and make fresh for next couple hours. Can't imagine morning without it? Welcome. You are slave of your habits.

Great habits
CC, photo by: Tiago Vidal Dutra

How to kill old (bad)habits.
Once you have performed some new action every day for at least 21 days instead of old one(this number is shown by most of researches). Dr. Maxwell, author of Psycho-cybernetics 1960 in his book on habit said:

It usually requires a minimum of about 21 days to effect any perceptible change in a mental image. Following plastic surgery it takes about 21 days for the average patient to get used to his new face. When an arm or leg is amputated the “phantom limb” persists for about 21 days. People must live in a new house for about three weeks before it begins to “seem like home”. These, and many other commonly observed phenomena tend to show that it requires a minimum of about 21 days for an old mental image to dissolve and a new one to jell.

To kill old habit, you have to perform new for a long time. Your brain starts to perceive new facts and new feelings. Remains of the old ones might take some time to clean up, but the only way how to break them is to make new ones.

How to make new habits.
Easily. Just perform every day something new that you want to form as a new habit and repeatedly make it for 21 days or more. It will suddenly become habit that you do even without realising it. It might be hard at first, but it just takes some time to get used to it. And it will go.

Story about habit.
As an European child, I had the chance to work in USA in my 20's as a University student for one really old company in Nashville TN - that I'm not going to mention here. It was an extremely personal improvement sales job ever. We were sent to California to work on our own business that wasn't quite one of those easy summer jobs that you might be imaging. Especially when summer in CA isn't quite fair to anyone outside in the heat and is not in the swimming pool for 6 days. It was the hardest sales thing I ever done in my life and I am extremely thankful and proud for this opportunity.After working extremely hard for 11 weeks about 14 hours a day - one of many things I've learned from this experience is the extreme power of new formed habit. It makes your performance extremely high if you let it. You can be on peak of your mental awareness if you make it so. It just takes three weeks to form it. I thought that I have discovered Secret of success. And  it's called Habits. You can be their slave, or master. You can choose. I have chosen to become master of them and I've succeeded in what I've done there.

Every time I want to achieve something I work constantly hard towards it by forming good habits first and then working towards them is easier and funnier. I am extremely passionate about the whole life and opportunities we have. Habits are the furnace of happiness. Action is the food for the flame coming from your inside. Never let it die and cool down.

Don't let them control you. Control them!

And there is one success quote I will always remember while trying to form new habits. And it is: "Good habits are hard to make, and easy to break. Bad habits are easy to make and hard to break" It's up to you, which way you choose to go.

Quick Holiday and Christmas advice
If you're still wondering about making or breaking new habits from beginning of the year 2013, it's almost too late to begin. Start now! Be ahead of everyone, and If your friends are going to tell you on New year's eve: "I'm starting to workout from January 1st every day!" Then simply reply. I have already started. And you will be ahead of forming your habits. Everyone will admire your effort and they will be stoned from your high performance and from being ahead so much when they will be just at the beginning of their thoughts.


Peter ValusPeter, finishing his bachelor's at University of economics in major statistics and informatics in Europe. He is former salesman and recruiter with experience in USA, stockbroker IT and marketing fan with keen and burning desire for stock and futures trading for whole of his life


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1 comment:

Jana Rylichova said...

I stopped to sweeten the coffee and tea in the eating program changes. This weekend I finished the program. Peter´s brought me, in good faith, sweetened tea and coffee today. I tasted it and I smelled sugar. My brain automatically said: "Do not drink it!" At that moment I have realized that I had developed a habit. Good habit, fortunately. The beginning was hard and painful, but I'm so happy for the result. Peter is right - I can become master of my habits and actions! And you can become a master as well!